Why I am not on Facebook

I deleted my Facebook account 3-4 months ago. I have a fake account for maintaining my Facebook apps and pages.

That fake account has everything fake ranging from pics, to information to even the name. Through it I joined a community while searching for joining dates of people in TCS. I was rather having fun and making jokes, but a rather long but intriguing chat took place in the group.

It was about 'Why I am not on Facebook' (Or some might also perceive it as 'Am I/ Am I not an Introvert'!!??).

Read on.




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  • Pagal Sardar Naam mein kya rakha hai vats.. Sab moh maaya hai [Neways if u fancy an ugly sardar u can catch me at http://thecornerteastall.blogspot.com/ ]
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  • Nayandeep Sehgal i'll c to it..babas are having their blog corners..greatt...damn..i wanna have one too..but not at dis moment..cnt wrk out da tym mgmt..
    3 hours ago ·
  • Shashi Kumar hi guyzzzzzz.............
    3 hours ago ·
  • Nayandeep Sehgal so u prefr to stay behind da scene..anyways..i respct it..one more ques..is it dat u prefr da theme based charactrs ..or u like to stay da same whole lyf out..???
    3 hours ago ·
  • Nayandeep Sehgal ‎@shashi:welcum to da ashram..!!..some baba is here..
    3 hours ago ·
  • Shashi Kumar aila.....om namah shiway........
    3 hours ago ·
  • Nayandeep Sehgal ‎@pagal: i'm sure mahn..dere's more mystery to ur character dan ur openness..something's fishy out here..
    3 hours ago ·
  • Pagal Sardar Its not that. I rather deleted my real account few months ago. The real reason was that Facebook is prone to our weakest traits as humans. We love attentions. We love to think of ourselves as something we want to be. We trade our true feelings to be included. We want to be popular. We want our taste in music and art to be value. We crave for external success. It was like high school all over again.
    3 hours ago · · 2 peopleLoading...
  • Nayandeep Sehgal and u must b from KU or MDU..
    3 hours ago ·
  • Pagal Sardar lol. How does that matter? It was MDU [thank god for that 'was']
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  • Nayandeep Sehgal ‎@pagal:i dnt go da way u r..it's da inner strngth wich resists u from getting prone to it..!!ahh...mahn..come on..jst get a hold of ur identity..how can u..
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  • Nayandeep Sehgal i dnt understnd..u mst have got bitten by some deep thought..that purely is taking it's toll over u..
    3 hours ago ·
  • Nayandeep Sehgal ‎@pagal: had i been to ur place..i wud have shown u da MIRROR which shows u UR name..not ur so calld imaginary one..wich u once desired to be.
    3 hours ago ·
  • Pagal Sardar
    I felt strange doing anything on it because I felt people were judging me. It was like I had developed this persona of an educated and successful and fun person when I was on it .Facebook befriending = please don't forget about me.

    Real frie...nding: Facebook befriending agnostic.

    Conclusion: without FB you know who your friends are. With FB, you know who your friends are, or are not: because you are reminded every time you look. And who needs that?
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    3 hours ago · · 1 personNayandeep Sehgal likes this.
  • Nayandeep Sehgal ‎@pagal:so wat happnd then??did u get da attn u wantd to attrct???..
    3 hours ago ·
  • Nayandeep Sehgal ‎*attntn
    3 hours ago ·
  • Pagal Sardar Lol. Attracting attention is not conscious. everyone on fb does it.
    3 hours ago ·
  • Nayandeep Sehgal so wat u think now..by the time u shatter ur ignorance u ll land into a territory wich wud again be da same..quantity of frnds doesn't mattr..a real frnd ll identify u from nowhere..doesn't mattr whthr u r a pagal baba or somethng else..
    3 hours ago ·
  • Pagal Sardar
    Everyone of my friends on Facebook would do a double-take whenever we didn't hear about some large event in their life. They assume that because it was on their Wall, that everyone knew about it. They didn't think to _call_ all their friend...s to talk about the great news, they simply threw it up on their Wall without thought.

    No longer do you have to think about your friends as individuals and how you're going to break news to them, or how they are going to react -- now you can simply throw up a general message and lose the individuality in a flood of responses.

    The depersonalization of communication has been exacerbated by a number of different technologies (such as email), however Facebook has allowed us to perfect the art of communication without soul.
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  • Pagal Sardar It is not my ignorance. It is rather people's. Now I have real friends calling me. And talking on the phone is much better coversation for me atleast.
    3 hours ago ·
  • Nayandeep Sehgal ‎@pagal:sorry for replying late..yup i agree wid dis fact..but tht's how da world n relations go with da tide of fb..n social ntwrkng..relations are now jst limited to 'like' something or nt..but see..this can fetch u some fruits though..jst like getting connctd wid frnds situatd dis far from u..and well..lastly..don't jst change urslf for da sake of othrs..
    3 hours ago ·
  • Nayandeep Sehgal ‎@pagal:u noe buddy..i wud luv to talk to u..no mattr whthr u r a baba..or jst a real life person..dats da kind of attitude one need to follow..dnt lose ur own identity..i luv myself being calld wat i'm..but not to da extent dat someone shud bow before me..i like to respect myself and othrs too..DUSRO KI JAI SE PEHLE KHUD KI JAI KAREIN..HUM KO MANN KI SHAKTI DENA
    3 hours ago ·
  • Nayandeep Sehgal an optimum befriending is wat shud b calld for..
    3 hours ago ·
  • Pagal Sardar Well I get you. I am not changing myself. I am rather trying to bring out the good in me. I call people i really care about and it means more. Before internet I met more people personally and traveled a lot. I have been to 16 states in India. I had frnds, who were rather very real and enchanting with their whole reality of a personality.
    3 hours ago ·
  • Nayandeep Sehgal ‎..k..let's give it a thought..lets accept dat fb is nothing but a mere medium of communication..a weak link though..but fruitful and helpful indeed..luk at the people out here..they upload da assignmnt..learn new language..and much more..do they really noe each othr..nopes..or indeed..a biggggggggg yesss....all u need is to noe whthr a person is true from da heart or not..won't they accept me wid some othr name or persona..they definitely will..
    3 hours ago ·
  • Pagal Sardar Yup you are right. Optimum befriending. Optimization is only needed in discreet cases. Only then can u say whether something is 'in' or 'out'. For continuous cases it is gradual. Now, fb has made friendship discreet. Some either is your friend or not. That is what I said earlier.
    3 hours ago ·
  • Nayandeep Sehgal no..u cnt jst categorize it by saying either frnd or not..some of them are jst ppl hu jst pass by u to say hii..some of them really luk forwrd to c if u have scribbd out something on their page(treat it as their heart )..some doesn't even care if u r alive or not..u jst need to omitt the last category..rest won't harm u..
    3 hours ago ·
  • Pagal Sardar Bro its not about acceptance. I am not hiding my personality (otherwise I wudn't have linked u to my blog). I just don't feel bonding on fb are strong enough. Facebook is not a particularly brilliant application and the amount of value it delivers is also not that great. If you're a Facebook user or addict, just pause for a moment and ask yourself how much actual value you're getting out of it relative to the time invested.
    3 hours ago ·
  • Pagal Sardar Exactly I am totally trying to depict what u said in ur last post. And I want both the parties to understand the value or the 'level'. Real life mein hamein ye to pta hota hai ki friend kaun hai, but ye nahi ki hamara friend kaun 'nahi' hai... fb pe decide karna padta hai.. u see!!
    3 hours ago ·
  • Nayandeep Sehgal If i pause for a moment..i see dat my time has been spent worth wid ppl lyk u..plus i got to compile my aasignments..and i stay updated abt da latest happenings..in no way out have i wastd my time on apps wich jst kill ur time..
    3 hours ago ·
  • Pagal Sardar Lets suppose there was no fb, Then u wud have made ur assignments urself. And learned something. Plus in less time, u wud have felt bored and hence went to meet real people which wud be more beneficial. Yaar I am very happy to meet you but I cant call , u see.
    3 hours ago ·
  • Nayandeep Sehgal I disagree..real life fetches u out bettr result in identifying ppl..for instance..consider dis..i spend time wid my frnds in real..get to know abt them..spend a plenty of time to dcide before coming to any instant result..in fb too..u shud spend some time..jst add a pal to ur list..watch his/her behavior.. and rest ur dcisn will dcide how much liberty u give to him to peek into ur lyf..
    3 hours ago ·
  • Pagal Sardar After this even if exchange numbers or meet in ILP and become good frnds then that is rather just a special case becoz we had this huge discussion. You cant have this discussion with everyone...
    3 hours ago ·
  • Pagal Sardar
    Most of what I see on twitter is this trivia, "I refinished my floors," "I bought an iPad." Would you normally go out of your way to talk about this to anyone who didn't ask "What did you do this weekend?" Probably not, so why do you feel t...he need to broadcast it to the world via Twitter/Facebook/<Insert Lifeless Tech Here>?

    Now take something you have a passion for. I personally am an avid reader. I meet my local friends and we discuss smthing we read and have completely different conversations and get insights into what they like. I have friends that are huge into climbing, now I have no big interest in it myself, but their passion draws me into the conversations and over the past decade I've learned more about climbing than I ever would have if it were just some posts.

    It takes an amazing writer to really evoke the emotions that most of our daily conversations have, and let's face it, the world isn't exactly filled with amazing writers.
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    3 hours ago · · 1 personNayandeep Sehgal likes this.
  • Nayandeep Sehgal ‎~making assignments dis early is nt possible for some..plus..i lead a balancd lyf b/w real and dis virtual one..and 'm happy to noe abt u..dis way or the othr..v still can remain connctd..and we have divided opinion only in case of revealing da identity..dats it..i jst to say u..jst come out of nutshell...a li'l bit..!!
    3 hours ago ·
  • Nayandeep Sehgal superliked ur last post..i completely agree wid wat u jst said..jst wana tell u again..don't take ur personal life break open here..but jst come out of nutshell to reveal ur name and to some extent ur dentity..dats it ...
    3 hours ago ·
  • Nayandeep Sehgal BTW sorry if u get my posts late..i'm using on screen keyboard..coz some of the keys aren't ready to face da heat off my hand..!!
    3 hours ago ·
  • Nayandeep Sehgal i hope..rather m sure dat u got wat i wantd to say..there goes anothr reason for it..i jst dnt wanna see u getting into a complex..do u..???
    3 hours ago ·
  • Pagal Sardar Bro I really appreciate you concern and your best intentions, but I do not have identity issues. I am rather an extrovert. I am revealing my identity(I gave u my blog address in public) when appropriate. Loved talking to you. And your physicals effort too. Take a rest. Get a new keyboard tomorow (If you type too much get a Dvorak rather than Qwerty type it'll increase ur speed5 times in a month). I am off to eat something..
    3 hours ago ·
  • Nayandeep Sehgal k..aftr so long i got someone to discs something dis much deep..and only serious minded ppl can appreciate and expend their enrgy to put forwrd their thoughts..i'm used to this keyboard..qwerty type..but sure will try dat one out..and dis keyboard is still alive..jst need a couple of pat to work again..lol..:P..go and have something..
    2 hours ago ·
  • Nayandeep Sehgal
    It's gud that u have given me da blog link..have gone thru two poems of urs..brilliant i mst say..especially da first one..jst got hang on to some of the words.. :) it's da writer who adheres to da feelings bettr dan othrs..and wen will u c...hange ur profile name here..????u spend tym here..b it constructive or destrctive ..we share feelings..if not cell nos..and moreover..u can follow da rule of 'be wat u r,not wat u want to b.'..wid ease..while keeping intact ur emotions..and coming out of some unknown pseudo persona..ques is yet to be answered..:)See More
    2 hours ago ·
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(PS: The occurrence of this 'anti-fb' chat on fb is rather an irony. Or it makes me a hypocrite atleast.)

3 comments:

  1. Could've been better was bored midway though!!!

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  2. kya bakwas time - pass tha yeh ...

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  3. smtyms dis pagal sardar really drives me nuts... :-P
    1 ques for dis sardar did u finally found ot who ur real concerned friends r ??? :)

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